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[seldear]

You know, someday I'll win the lottery, be published, fall in love with a guy who thinks I'm the best thing on earth (*snerk*), and have gorgeous babies. And when I do, you'll get to hear all about it!

Until then, however, I'm afraid you're stuck listening to my bad news.

Dad just got out of the hospital. Swelling of the body and rashes on the skin possibly caused by food. Something about liver failure? It's hard to hear him over the phone, he tends to be quiet when he's relating bad news: it's either quiet, or cagey. When it's both then things are bad. And he was both.

He's worried enough that he wants to sign over directorship of one of his companies to me. Solar lighting for outdoors, made in China, shipped to the US.

I'm worried about this, because Dad's business ventures are usually black holes when it comes to money, and because Dad's looking at this as a kind of 'hand it over to the children' - largely represented by me since I'm the one most like him so far (a little more adventurous and willing to take a chance than the twins). Which is also scary for me because Dad hasn't really been very successful at any of his ventures.

I'm going to visit him in July, and I hope this is just a passing phase and nothing to worry about. He's pushing sixty, but my grandfather lived to be eighty-eight and my grandmother's still alive (and chirpy, too).

Okay, now I'm feeling old.

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[venom69.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Think good thoughts hon.

[cailetr.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

*hugs back*

Thanks, Ky.

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Cai.

(I just realised that you and Ky have the same sounding names, even if they're spelled very differently!)

[matt1969.livejournal.com]

*hugs* pray for wisdom, guidance, healing and hope

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. I'll definitely be mentioning it at bible study tonight. All those are very much needed right now. *hugs*

[saramund.livejournal.com]

*hugs* hon. Hopefully alls well and it's just an overreaction.

[ruralstar.livejournal.com]

I don't pray but I will keep good thoughts for both you and your dad. It's so tough when parents get older. Our roles get reversed and often it's a gradual process until one day you wake up and wonder how it happened.

Ruralstar

[cheekygal.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thinking of you both.

[stargatedragon.livejournal.com]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{healing hugs for everyone}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

[pixiesio.livejournal.com]

{{hugs}}

[sjshipper.livejournal.com]

I will def. say prayers for him... and you too! Maybe you'll find out more info when you visit him, about treatment and such. Hang in there.

[distant-cord.livejournal.com]

{{{{{Hugs for you and your dad}}}}}

Hopefully it's just food and not anything serious.

[alliesings.livejournal.com]

*hugs* with prayers

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Definitely hoping it's an overreaction. But I'm praying anyway. *gnaws fingernails*

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Yeah, it's kinda scary that way.

I had a conversation with my mum shortly after, and said something to the effect of: "I'm not supposed to worry about him! He's supposed to worry about me! I feel gypped!" My mum laughed.

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thanks AC.

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Sal.

The whole 'signing things over' really concerned me. He's never done or hinted at anything like that before and the way he said it put me in mind of 'getting everything in order' before he kicks the bucket.

I'm sorta stuck between being worried about him and angry with him for letting things get this far...

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thank you!

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Linz. *hugs*

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

*hugs* sio back.

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thank you for the prayers. I won't be seeing him for at least another two months, though - and a lot can happen during that time.

I'm wondering if I should get him to read up on exclusion diets - it might be something he's developed an allergy towards.

Ah well. Thanks for the encouragement as well!

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Definitely hoping it's just food and not anything serious!

*hugs*

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Allie.

[sleekuk.livejournal.com]

Oh hon that's bad - wishing him well. An re: the company thing... I'd say don't do anything you don't want to do really...

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

Thanks, hon. Am going to call up and get him to explain all the bits and pieces of this directorship thing. 'Cos I have a feeling I'd be responsible for any liabilities that turned up in the company.

Not good.

[sleekuk.livejournal.com]

Nope :/ If you're considering it though, get a good accountant to go through the accounts and do the usual calculations to work out going concern, debtor collection days and creditor payment days, cash etc etc. You find that a lot of companies go under because of cashflow, even if they've got good business so that's a biggie.

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

You find that a lot of companies go under because of cashflow, even if they've got good business

ie. not enough cash is going in so there's not enough to come out again, even if the services they're selling is popular?

[sleekuk.livejournal.com]

Yes, roughly that. The company might be doing lots of work and have lots of people who owe it money (ie. a high level of debtors) but if it can't pay its bills it's stuffed. You'd think that wouldn't happen but a business must be good at collecting from debtors as quickly as possible as well as deferring creditors as long as possible! And of course all those other businesses are trying to do the same thing so it gets a bit messy.

It also depends on which industry it's in. Cashflow problems are more common in some industries than others and I'm not sure about whatever it is your dad is into. :)

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

I think my Dad has trouble collecting from debtors. And, IIRC, always has. *wince*

[sleekuk.livejournal.com]

IIRC? I'm thinking that's not a good thing...?! :/

[seldearslj.livejournal.com]

IIRC = If I Recall Correctly

ie. Dad has a bad history of collecting on the debts owed to him.

[sleekuk.livejournal.com]

Aaah :(